Dating someone with HIV is tricky, but when that person is your friend, things tend to get even more complicated. If this is the case with you, we can bet that you’re wondering whether you will ruin a perfectly good friendship, not to mention doubting whether this guy is really your ideal match. Yes, the friend-to-lover transition can be magical and easy, but it can also be messy and confusing. However, you don’t need to worry as there are steps you can take and thus make the whole process a lot less confusing.
Flirt a little bit
Does he have feelings for you or does he just see you as his best friend? Figuring this out can prove to be rather tricky, but flirting can resolve your doubts. Namely, it will let you test the waters and give you space to see if he likes you as well. You don’t have to be obvious about it; simply ask him if he likes your outfit or your new haircut. In time, you can step up your game and see where it takes you, based on his response, of course.
Make sure he is relationship material before you do anything
There is a big difference between a friend you can always count on and who knows all your secrets, and the one you just like partying with. Therefore, consider the quality of your friendship before you even consider dating him. Is he someone who makes you feel safe, or just someone you like to drink with?
Figure out why you want to date him
You have tried every dating app and website, and you are thinking about swearing off romance for the rest of your life. On the other hand, your friend makes you feel safe, he is always there for you and he is actually kind of cute. Before you get carried away, keep in mind that there is so much more to a healthy relationship than just feeling safe. Although sex is not the most important part of a relationship, there needs to be some level of sexual attraction or romantic desire involved, too.
You need to go all in
Don’t obsess over what will happen if you break up. It is perfectly okay that you value your friendship and don’t want to mess it up but worrying about what will happen if you split all the time can significantly damage your relationship.