We won’t lie, dating a widower can be complicated. Going out with a man who lost his wife may sound daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. Like in any relationship, what you do in the beginning of the relationship sets the tone for the entire relationship. If you are nervous about your first date, don’t be! Here are some advices which should help you have a positive dating experience.
Putting on an act
Pretending to be something you are not is one of the worst mistakes you can make. You can only keep him in the dark for a couple of dates, max, and then you will be caught with your hand in the cookie jar. Be natural, be yourself, don’t fake anything. In the end, you want him to like the real you, right?
Mistaking a good relationship for attraction
With some people we just get along so easily. But that doesn’t mean we should date all of them. Just because you had a few laughs with some guy, doesn’t mean you should marry him. Stop for a second and see whether you are really attracted to him or you just feel good in his company. Maybe you get along great with your handsome coworker, but just because you can trash talk about your boss together doesn’t mean you were mean to be. Keep in mind that widowers dating is complicated, so don’t rush into it if you are not completely certain you like the guy.
Going too fast
When you are widower dating always go slow. Maybe you like this guy so much you can already so yourself in a white dress, but hit the brakes. Widowers have suffered a great loss, and they don’t want to be pressured into doing something they are not ready for. Give him time to grieve. Going on your first date and talking about how you want three kids and a house near your parents so they could help you when needed is too much. Keep the conversation light. Ask him about his favorite sports team, book or a band.
Your Twitter followers can wait. Forget about answering your texts or calls when you are on a date. You don’t have to Instagram your dinner or take a picture of you two having a meal together. Leave your phone in your purse. Everything can wait. Put your phone on vibrate so it doesn’t disturb your conversation. There isn’t anything more important than the connection you have with your date.